Transform Yourself Into An Optimist

Every leader experiences periods of ups and downs. Hopefully, more up periods.

If you struggle with too many down periods, it might be because you have perfectionist tendencies.

Transform yourself into an optimist by:

Viewing failure as an opportunity to learn and understand that failure is part of a fulfilling life.
Making room for pain. Don't deny yourself permission to feel painful emotions.
Setting standards that are attainable because they are grounded in reality. Don't set goals and standards that are essentially impossible to meet.

You can learn more about being an optimist by reading the book, "The Pursuit Of The Perfect: How To Stop Chasing Perfection And Start Living A Richer, Happier Life" by Tal Ben-Shahar

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