āAs we age, the instinct to matter crystallizes into the fundamental need to be seen, heard, valued, and needed,ā says Zach Mercurio Ph.D., author of the new book, The Power Of Mattering: How Leaders Can Create A Culture Of Significance . āThe need to matter never goes away. And if our need to matter is satisfied, we flourish.ā Mercurio explains that mattering is created through small, repeated interactions that ensure people feel noticed, affirmed, and needed. These three ingredients form these three leadership practices : Noticing: the practice of seeing and hearing others. Affirming: the practice of showing people how their unique gifts make a difference. Needing: the practice of showing people how they're relied on and indispensable. Part One of Mercurioās book illuminates the what and why of mattering and offers you a self-assessment to measure your mattering skill level. Part Two explores ...
In their book, Millennials Who Manage , authors Chip Espinoza and Joel Schwarzbart , quote Donna Hicks's explanation about how dignity is different from respect : Dignity is different from respect in that it is not based on how people perform, what they can do for us, or their likability. Dignity is a feeling of inherent value and worth. Therefore, Espinoza and Schwarzbart recommend that leaders treat those they are leading with dignity and follow Hick's 10 Essential Elements of Dignity : Acceptance of Identity - Approach people as being neither inferior nor superior to you. Assume that others have integrity. Inclusion - Make others feel that they belong, whatever the relationship. Safety - Put people at ease at two levels: physically, so they feel safe from bodily harm, and psychologically, so they feel safe from being humiliated. Acknowledgment - Give people your full attention by listening, hearing, validating, and respondi...