The Seven Ways To Become A Generous Leader

Speaking about his new book, The Generous Leader, author Joe Davis says, “This book is about the ways in which you can become a generous leader to be part of something bigger than yourself.” 

He adds that the old model for a leader – a top-down, unilateral, single-focus boss, isn’t effective in today’s workplace. “That old model no longer attracts talent, invites collaboration, or gets the best results from the team. That leader’s time is passed. Today, there is a need for a more human-centered, bighearted, authentic way to lead,” adds Davis.

 

To help you become a generous leader, Davis introduces you to seven essential elements that he believes will develop you into a leader for the future.

 

The seven elements are: 

1. Generous Communication: Be real to build deep connections. Be available to connect with the person, and not just the person in their role to make them feel seen.
2. Generous Listening: Be sincerely curious about another’s perspective. Ask thoughtful questions. Ask “why” often.
3. Generous Inclusion: Be inclusive to invite collaboration and show respect.
4. The Generous Ally: Take chances to make chances for others.
5. Generous Development: Validate strengths and success, identify expansive opportunities.
6. Generous Moments: Make small acts of acknowledgment in important moments to make a big impact.
7. Give up the Mask: Be emotionally accessible with authenticity and vulnerability. 

“Being vulnerable with your staff is intimidating, but when connecting with people not only will you grow as a leader and a person, but your business will grow as well,” explains Davis. Also, “bringing your authentic self to your leadership takes courage and commitment, but you reap profound benefits from heart-led generous acts.”

 

Throughout this book and essential and practical guide, you will discover unvarnished and unforgettable stories, the author, and CEOs of well-recognized companies reveal about their experiences and mistakes that informed their success.

 

I agree with Davis, there is a no more powerful leader than a generous leader! A leader who unlocks the best parts of himself/herself to become the best leader possible.

Joe Davis

Today, Davis shares these insights with us:

 

Question: Of the seven essential elements, which do you find the most difficult for leaders to master and why?

 

Davis: I think the two toughest are Give Up the Mask and Generous Listening.

 

First is sharing personal self, being vulnerable and authentic. Why? It is just not how so many of us were trained or raised to be leaders. The “tough guy” in control, in charge, have all the answers person has been glorified for too long.

 

Also, many of us do not have experience with showing emotions and the power of what happens when we do.

 

Second is listening to learn. You need to become comfortable knowing you do not know what you do not know and thus always ask questions, probing and exploring what others know that you do not, so you get to a richer answer/insight.

 

People also do not slow down enough to try to understand where the other is coming from – their lived experience. Why does this happen? It’s because often we think we know it all. Or we are afraid to show we do not know it all or feel we have done all the “work and analysis” and are sure we have the answer. Even worse, we don’t care about another’s experiences.

 

Question: If a reader can only tackle one or two of the seven essential elements this year as they strive to become a better leader, which one or two do you recommend they tackle and why?

 

Davis:

If talking about two to tackle, I recommend:

 

Generous Listening: Listen to learn, ask questions, probe, learn what others know. Doing so provides you with a much richer answer/insight. It makes the other person feel included, empowered, inspired, motivated. Ask questions!

 

Generous Moments: Take some small actions that will have huge impact. It’s easy to get started and it makes others feel recognized. It shows you care about others. When people feel recognized and appreciated, they will be inspired to be better, do more, perform higher – all benefitting them, the organization, and its mission, and you.

 

Davis is a Managing Director and Senior Partner at the Boston Consulting Group.

 

In The Generous Leader, Joe tells a story about a performance review he received as he was just starting his career: He was told he was not the best at problem-solving solo; but in collaboration with others, he could solve any challenge. His manager identified his key strength—Joe was a person who could connect with anyone.

 

This ability to connect with people became the foundation of a successful career at Boston Consulting Group, spanning 40-plus years.

 

Finally, here are the 10 guiding actions that Davis practices after he wakes up each morning: 

1. Start the day caring.
2. Always remember you don’t know what you don’t know.
3. Find constant opportunities to engage, listen, and hear.
4. Work hard to hear from, and team with, the broadest possible set of voices.
5. Engage honestly; be real.
6. Speak plainly, directly, and honestly in all interactions.
7. Make decisions decisively, yet with the confidence and humbleness to adjust if wrong.
8. Make productive use of each moment each day.
9. Live each day positively, with high energy and a smile that exudes confidence.
10. Care for yourself, your health, and your well-being (exercise, sleep, eat healthfully).

Thank you to the book's publisher for sending me an advance copy of the book.